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Ways to deal with a stubborn child

The state of stubbornness in children is considered a kind of disturbed behavior, which reflects feelings of aversion to the child and hatred of the people around him, and this behavior may be issued by the child consciously and willingly, and it may be issued unconsciously where his actions are in the form of a habit that he practices, and the stubborn and nervous child may need Among educators is utmost attention and care, and not to surrender in front of this turbulent behavior, but rather to expedite its treatment when it comes from the child, and not to accustom him to achieving his demands for a lot of crying and insistence, and this behavior must not be rooted in the same child, and does not form a perception in his mind that all family members are Mortgages his desires and desires, and therefore on the Religion is taming the child to obey them and gain the lovable behavior of the independent personality, and dealing with children with stubborn personalities and temperament is difficult for parents, and they behave sharply in all matters even basic ones such as eating and bathing until going to sleep so they need special treatment by the parents And you should know that hitting, mocking, and ridicule is not the best solution for dealing with this child, as this will increase the problem.

Ways to deal with stubborn children:

Listen and do not order:
The process of communication occurs through a two-way street, and if you want your stubborn child to listen to you, you must listen to it first so that some children of uncontrolled will may have the logic that persuades you to do so, and the problem is that these children increase the amount of stubbornness they have if they feel you Do not listen to what they say, and every time your child insists on doing or not doing something you should talk to and listen to his reasons and calmly, you direct what is right and what is wrong.

Communicate with children and do not force them:
Whereas, when you force a child to do something, they tend to do everything that you do not want and the solution to that is counter-will in the sense that you make the child follow his instinct and control him without restricting him so that you can communicate with him and prove him wrong in a practical way.

Show a selection of options:
Children who have minds that are mobile and do not like to be told what to do, and tell your stubborn child that he must go to bed at nine in the evening and everything that you will get on the word no, and do the thing annoying for stubborn children so try to give him some Choices, for example, when he goes to sleep, tell him: Do you want to read a story before you sleep, but do not overlook the choices, such as asking him to choose what he wants to wear, this may expose him to confusion and feel a challenge which increases his stubbornness, but try to offer him two or three options At most.

Talk to a child quietly:
Because nervousness and speaking out loud with stubborn children may eventually lead to a game of screaming from both sides, as screaming in children is an invitation to a battle which forces the child to respond in kind to defend his logic and eventually things get worse, and try to speak to the child as if It was one of the adults that you give him the arguments and evidence for doing or not doing something, and you should get rid of your nervousness and tense in all possible ways, meditation, sport, listening to music, anything that may calm your nerves and make you calm.

Respect them:
In order for the child to respect you and respect your decisions, you must also respect him and we will show some examples of the ways of respect between the child and parents, which are like cooperation and do not insist on the commanding method, and apply the rules to all children and do not exclude anyone from them, sympathize with them and do not reduce their feelings or thoughts, Let your children do what may be in their best interest and do not try to impose on them a certain template so that they have confidence in themselves, say what they really mean and do what you say, and you should know that children, whatever they seem indifferent to them, they observe your behavior well.

Work with them:
As a stubborn or strong-willed child is always sensitive to the actions you take with him, so you should pay attention to your accents, movements, and words that you use with him and when you do something that he does not like against him, he does what he prefers to protect himself, and he can use his word, let's do it or for what We don't do it instead of you should do it, and use fun activities with the stubborn child and the games he prefers to earn his friendliness and make him do whatever you want, and you can also challenge him with a fun formula in a game to make him do whatever you want.

You may need to negotiate with children, and it is normal for children to act aggressively when they do not get what they want if you want them to listen to you. You must know the reason in order to stop stubbornness, and start asking some questions about what is bothering him, and is there something? Do you want something, and until you try to talk to him then this tells him that you respect his desire, it must negotiate does not mean that you surrender to his request every time and you will be able to determine the timing of negotiation with the practice, and as in determining the time to go to sleep if he insisted on not going to sleep in timing Moein negotiated with him on the timing he wanted.

Understanding children's perspective:
In order to better understand the stubborn behavior of the child, you must put yourself in his position, and try to imagine if you were in his position what would you do, and the more you know about your child the more you can deal with better and the less stubborn he is with you, and you become understanding for some.

Supporting positive behavior:
Where there are some situations in which you do not know how to behave with a stubborn child but in general you should calm down and not leave nervousness controlling the reins and you should always put yourself in the place of your child and try to ask him to understand things, and now I will shorten some of the usual situations and tell you some strategies that It can be followed with a stubborn child to do what you want without needing hitting or nerve.

Consistency in opinion and indulgence:
The parents will not be hardened once and be lenient again in the same matter. The child does not tolerate fluctuations in standards, and the result is his refusal to implement the matter, such as insulting or insulting his parents, so the parents meet him with laughter and play, but when he curses and insults in front of people, they meet him with beatings and taunts, so the contradiction is clear in responses Parents did the same behavior from the child.

The use of the positive reinforcement method with the child when a correct behavior is issued reinforces this act with him, and works to repeat it, to obtain the support, support and encouragement of the parents, and it is not a condition that the reinforcement be something physical, it may be praise, praise, or the promise of a short recreational trip, and is not That's one of the types of rewards.

Qualities of recalcitrant child:

  1. He responds to the situations he spoke with with great emotion, and shows his features in anger and dissatisfaction.
  2. Extreme fear and alarm of the animals he sees. He appears to be distracted and not focused on any topic presented to him. Little patience, hasty, and impulsive in his thoughts. It is difficult for him to decide on matters that concern him, whether small or simple. When he wants to get something, he is crying and wailing.
  3.  Keep claiming, and things evolve to annoy others, and after achieving what he wants, he will be completely calm.
  4. Beating is often used, biting, hustle, and vandalism, and aggressiveness is evident in a way that does not respond to the advice and advice of parents.